In this case, though, I'm going to act as intermediary for a commentor and pose her question. I'm doing so with her permission. This is certainly a topic I'm interested in and I hope those of you out there who are living in similar demographics will once again provide your wisdom and insight.
As a side note, I've decided to change my label for these discussions from "Racism" to "Race and Human Relations." Maybe I'm wrong, but that seems like a more constructive label to me.
Let me introduce you to Rachel. She comes to DC Rush Hour via Sister Mary Lisa, a friend of mine in Montana. You may have seen her comment in the Apologies entry, but it's buried way down in the discussion and I wanted to bring her query to the front page, if you will. Hence, this entry. Rachel lives in Michigan and this is the comment she left on my blog:
I just found your blog and am incredibly glad that I did.
This is such a fantastic post and it brings up some angst that I harbor. I have a question for the African American readers if they would like to answer. I am caucasian. My son's father is African American. I am no longer with my son's (D) father. I am raising a bi-racial child in a mono-racial home. I try and be proactive and discuss things with D so that he can learn more about his diverse heritage and when I inquired, he told me that he percieves himself as black.
I am fine with that and want to embrace that part of who he is and teach him to grow up to be a good man. Whether he perceives himself as black, white, bi-racial or any other way doesn't matter to me, but I want to respect that part of him and encourage him.
How can I, as a caucasian woman, teach my son what he needs to know to survive and thrive in this society if he perceives himself as black? He does have contact with his father's family but I don't feel that this issue should be handled solely by them.
As I have no children--bi-racial or otherwise--I ask you, my readers to share your wisdom and insight. Are there books you would recommend? Are there organizations for bi-racial kids and their families? What would you suggest?
If you want to leave your comments here, that's great! We'll all benefit. If you'd like to email Rachel privately, you can find her email address here in her Blogger Profile.